Creating Magic

Let me start off by thanking Thabisa for giving me this opportunity to share with you my thoughts on relationships. This is obviously a topic that can not be discussed in its entirety in one blog post so I will just try to summaries as much as I can.

NB* The following is purely based from my experience and yes I am male.

Whether you are male or female there comes a point in time when looks become less important. Okay let me put it like this, remember back in high school when the goal was to date the hottest boy or girl? I remember those days like yesterday. Good looks were everything and if you were fortunate enough to have them then I bet your high school days were some of your best days ever. Not only would all the attention be on you but it even seemed like you'd have the teachers' favour as well.

Sadly as you start to meet the adult person you're going to become you start yearning for something beyond the looks. You will start to discover that looks are temporary and that there is always going to be another better looking person somewhere out there. This discovery usually replaces your search for good looks in a person with the search for companionship. Until that shift has happened one cannot be deemed to be ready for a serious relationship.

"How do you stay faithful?" a friend of mine once asked. "I've been trying hard to be faithful but its just too difficult" he said. I found myself amused by his question because I've often been asked the same question by other people. To be honest I don't have an answer that truly works but I will share with you what I told him. I believe being faithful is a conscious decision one makes. Its a decision that comes with maturity. Sometimes you just have to sit down and look at your partner and relationship. Once you do that and you find yourself smiling then being faithful should become easy. One thing that's for sure is that no one can force someone to be faithful. Maturity plays a huge part in this regard and until someone decides on their own without any outside pressure to be faithful then its unlikely to happen.

Imagine taking two different people, from different backgrounds, raised differently, possessing differently personalities and then have them build something....Certainly relationships are a piece of work and for them to succeed both parties need to be truly invested in each other. Being grateful for those little things your partner does for you can go a long way and oh forgiveness... If you are slow to forgive then stay far away from relationships.

In conclusion, if there is one thing I've learnt from my relationship its patience. No two people are the same and being patient with your partner can work magic in your relationship.

Thank you guys for taking your valuable time to read my thoughts. I obviously had a lot to share but as you know, time is of the essence. Keep well and stay safe.

Till next time..